‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ (English: Fifty Shades of Grey) is an American erotic romance film released in 2015. Based on the novel of the same name by E.L. James. Directed by Sam Taylor-Johnson, written by Kelly Marcel, and starring Dakota Johnson, Jamie Dornan, Jennifer Ehle and Marcia Gay Harden. The film premiered at the Berlin International Film Festival on February 11, 2015, and was officially released on February 13. It was an immediate success at the box office, breaking multiple box office records, with a global box office of US$571 million.
Because of ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’, BDSM sex that originally sounded scary has become a little more ‘friendly’. However, according to the results of many studies by psychologists, Gray does not actually reflect the majority of BDSM practitioners - at least rich, young, CEOs with six packs and helicopters are in the minority.
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How many BDSM practitioners are there?
Between 2001 and 2002, an Australian research team conducted telephone interviews with nearly 20,000 respondents aged 16 to 59. Among sexually active respondents, 2.2% of men and 1.3% of women had engaged in BDSM behavior in the past year.
Outside of practice, how many people have BDSM sexual fantasies?
In another study just published this month, a Canadian research team asked 1,516 adults aged 18 to 77 (799 women, 717 men) to rate the frequency of 55 sexual fantasy situations and write down their favorite Favorite sexual fantasy. Among them, 64.6% of women and 53.3% of men said that they had sexual fantasies about being ‘dominated’; while 46.7% of women and 59.6% of men fantasized about ‘dominance’. In the blog of psychologist Justin J. Lehmiller, he also conducted a simple survey among readers: among the 391 readers who filled out the questionnaire, at least half had played the dominant or dominant role in sex at one time or another. The experience of the dominated.
| Fantasy Situations | Female | Male |
|---|---|---|
| Playing the dominant role during sex | 64.6% | 53.3% |
| Playing a dominant role in sexual behavior | 46.7% | 59.6% |
| Fantasy about being tied up and having sex | 52.1% | 46.2% |
| Fantasy about tying the other person up and having sex | 41.7% | 48.4% |
| Spank or whip each other | 23.8% | 43.5% |
| Fantasy about being spanked or whipped | 36.3% | 28.5% |
Does it appear that more people aspire to or practice BDSM than previously thought? But if you are yearning for BDSM, you may have to worry about finding the ‘right’ partner. In the past, surveys have found that compared with the general population, the proportion of single heterosexual men among BDSM practitioners is higher. This is probably because it is difficult to find a partner who can share the same interests and establish a stable relationship.
It would be a bit naive to imagine that the problem of ‘difficult to find a partner’ can be improved because of the popularity of the ‘Grey’ story. After all, ‘Grey’ can probably only be called an ‘innocent CEO novel with handcuffs’ (‘The Domineering President Handcuffs Me Tight’? ) or ‘President’s Edition of Twilight Zone’ do not reflect the true appearance of the BDSM community. Gray was able to have BDSM relationships with 15 women before meeting Anna, again, this can only be attributed to the fact that he is a rich and young CEO.
So what tricks do BDSM practitioners play?
I hope you won’t misunderstand because of movies or novels that BDSM practitioners fly helicopters for dates or have their own ultra-luxurious game rooms. So what tricks do BDSM practitioners play?
In a literature review published in 2002, psychologist Sandnabba (NK) and others compiled 40 BDSM behaviors, among which bandage and flagellation were featured in the movie ‘Grey’s’ , handcuffs (Handcuffs), accounting for 88.7%, 82.8%, and 74.7% respectively, are among the top 5 common items. In terms of role-playing, the most common one is of course master/slave (55.9%), followed by uniform (38.8%), teacher/student (29.1%), execution (23.6%), hospital (15.7%), and rape (13.5%).
However, if you look for this research document (due to the scale, it is not possible to list it here), you will find that there are many common items that do not appear in the work ‘Grey’ (such as the 7th The dildo Didos, as well as the leather outfit in eighth place, both accounted for 72.6%), and Gray’s gameplay of sliding ice cubes across Anna’s body actually only ranked 28th (Ice, 33.9%). It’s no wonder that “Grey” It is not generally favored by the BDSM community. On the other hand, one of the impressions most people have of SM - Wax is only ranked 27th, accounting for 35%, which is not as common as everyone thinks.
Are BDSM practitioners mentally unhealthy?
In the story, Gray, who plays the master (or ‘dominance’ or ‘dominance’), had an unpleasant childhood experience. The author connects Gray’s SM habit with his past. Do people with SM tendencies have abnormal psychology?
In a 2006 study published by psychologist Dr. Connolly (‘Superman’), 10 psychological disorders were compared between BDSM practitioners and non-BDSM practitioners. The results found that BDSM practitioners had lower levels of depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), psychological sadism, psychological masochism, borderline pathology, Paranoia; to the same extent in obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), dissociation, and narcissism. Similar results also appeared in the study published by Richters et al. in 2008: male BDSM practitioners had significantly lower psychological distress than other men.
Later, Dutch psychologists Andreas Wismeijer and Marcel van Assen also compared the personality traits of BDSM practitioners and non-BDSM practitioners. They surveyed 902 BDSM practitioners and 434 non-BDSM practitioners through an online questionnaire. The questionnaire did not indicate that the study was comparing the differences between the two groups. All participants would only think that this was a behavioral-related study, which would avoid them There is a deviation in the answer.
As a result, BDSM practitioners are more extroversion, conscientiousness, openness, and have a higher degree of subjective well-being. In addition, they are less neurotic and less rejection sensitive. There is a negative consequence, however: BDSM practitioners are relatively less agreeable.
Interestingly, among the BDSM practitioners in this survey, dominant scores were the highest, followed by ‘switches’ (sometimes dominating and sometimes being dominated), and the lowest scores were masochists; but no matter what role they play in BDSM, For each role, the scores are higher than those of non-BDSM practitioners.
But psychologist Lehmiller has some reservations about the findings. He believes that there is not much difference in the scores between the two groups, and it cannot be concluded that BDSM practitioners have higher scores (but at least not lower than non-BDSM practitioners); in addition, the questionnaires of BDSM practitioners were collected from a BDSM forum in the Netherlands, which may not necessarily Reflecting the situation in other BDSM communities, the non-BDSM practitioners in the study were on average 6 years younger and less educated. Of course, the research team has taken these factors into account, but it still cannot rule out whether other demographic variables are affecting the study results. Overall, research shows that BDSM practitioners do not suffer from mental health problems.
What changes will BDSM cause to the psychology?
A research team from Northern Illinois University once recruited 58 SM practitioners to measure the concentrations of cortisol, which represents stress, and testosterone, which represents dominance, from their saliva. In addition, they also measured psychological levels. The closeness of the relationship, and whether there is any difference before and after engaging in SM.
Research has found that during SM, the cortisol concentration of the dominated person will increase, but there is no such change in the dominant person; in particular, the testosterone concentration of the female dominated person will also increase. Study participants who had enjoyable SM experiences experienced reduced psychological stress and stronger relationships. This is most likely because both parties agree that the relationship is part of SM, with care and affection that has the potential to enhance the relationship.
Another study conducted by psychologist Dr. Brad Sagarin found that ‘bipolar people’ will enter altered states of consciousness whether they are dominated or dominant in SM. . The difference is that the dominated person will enter a state of ’transient hypofrontality’, while the dominant person will enter a state of ‘flow’.
When a person is in a state of ‘instantaneous low prefrontal lobe function’, the perception of pain will be reduced, and there will be a sense of floating and tranquility, and the sense of time will be distorted. Similar states appear in dreams, endurance races, meditation, and writing. After daydreaming, hypnosis, or taking drugs. Flow state allows people to become focused, concentrated, unable to feel their own existence, and have optimal work performance while feeling excited and fulfilled. Dr. Sagein believes that it is probably these two states of consciousness that prompt BDSM practitioners to continue to invest in BDSM. Past studies have found that the BDSM community generally has higher education levels and higher income than the overall social average. As for Gray, did the ‘flow’ state caused by playing the dominant role in SM bring him success in his career? This will probably only be known after a psychologist visits him and his secretary says, ‘Mr. Gray can see you now.’
Mr. Gray doesn’t want to see you yet
Luo Luochang wrote such a long story, and it was probably ‘burned out’ after reading it, and there was no reason to support ‘Grey’. This article is just to show that people with BDSM hobbies are mentally sound (even healthier than ‘average people’), but it does not mean that BDSM practitioners practice BDSM for mental health.
Remind you, if you feel a little nervous while watching a movie or novel, don’t mistakenly think that the S or M factors hidden in your heart are about to stir up and fall into BDSM (after all, people who don’t like hot pot will only eat “vanilla” when they go to a hot pot restaurant. ‘Ice cream’), otherwise you will take the elevator and leave in disgust after the president rewards your ass with a six-month plate.
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